Posts Tagged ‘Father’s Day’

Think Out of the Box on this Father’s Day

Monday, June 9th, 2014

For years, most sons and daughters are challenged by what they should “buy” for their dad on Father’s Day. Often it is a nice shirt or some other functional gift. That would earn a “medal” for sure but maybe only a bronze because it’s a thing. A silver medal would go to those who verbally expressed gratitude and gave something. But for me, the gold medal goes to the son/daughter who thinks outside of the (gift) box and writes something in addition to giving an object. The written gift never stops giving.

I remember two years ago, on Father’s Day, when I received heartwarming, handwritten cards from our grown twin sons. They were so special I framed them. I read them often and every time it warms my heart and I count my blessings. They also gave me a “thing” with the card but I have long forgotten what that was.

Another out-of-the-box way to celebrate Father’s Day is to think of someone, other than your Father, who may have given you some very valuable advice or supported you in a meaningful way. The person could have been your uncle, grandfather, mentor or just a mature male friend. In any case, it may have even been a road-changer in your life. What about reaching out and communicating your gratitude to this person on Father’s Day?

I read an article in the USA Today this week about Mike Emrick, an extraordinary sportscaster in the hockey world. The piece describes his current mission to write a letter every day to each person who made a difference in his life. He thinks it could take him a year or two to finish. I am certain that many of these people had given him “fatherly” advice and he was most grateful.

So on this Father’s Day, give the gift of gratitude in written form to your Father and anyone else who has made a significant contribution to your life. It will always be the perfect size and color! I promise you it will not only make their day but also enrich their life.

To read the full article about Mike Emrick’s thank-you-card campaign, click here.

With gratitude,
Walter Green

Father’s Day—A Perfect Time for Reflection and Gratitude

Friday, June 7th, 2013

Right about now, many of you may be thinking about this upcoming Father’s Day and what you might do to make it extra special.  If you are blessed and your father is still alive, consider the expression of appreciation for all that he has done for you over your lifetime.

I am reminded of the story of what one graduate student did after hearing me speak on the subject of my book, This is the Moment…How One Man’s Yearlong Journey Captured the Power of Extraordinary Gratitude. She was a night student and still living at home.  When she returned home the night of the lecture she made a list of all the contributions her father made to her life.  When her father arrived home later than evening, she asked him to join her in the living room indicating she had things that she would like to share with him.   He inquired, “About what?”  She responded, “About what you have meant to me.”  The father responded, “I know you love me.”   The daughter added “Dad, it is more than that.  I would love you to just sit with me for a few minutes so I can share my feelings with you.”   The father acquiesced and the daughter proceeded to express the specific contributions he had made to her life and what it has meant to her.  They both were in tears before the conversation was finished.   The father said at the end that it was one of the most heartwarming moments of his life.

It is not important whether you communicate these expressions of gratitude in person.  If you will not be with your father on Father’s Day, a letter would do just fine.  The important issue is that you do not miss the opportunity.

Whether your father is or is not alive, I would reflect on one additional question.  Who else is alive that has given you very helpful fatherly advice over the years?

We all know we are not self -made.  Was there a mentor, a teacher, someone in the older generation that made a difference in your life?

If you watched the recent running of the Preakness, the winning jockey was a Hall of  Fame rider by the name of Gary Stevens.  What makes this story even more remarkable is that Gary is 50 years old and has not raced in the last seven years and his horse, Oxbow was a 15 to 1 shot.  When the commentator asked how he was able to do it, Gary responded that his father has been very important to him but he is also so indebted to others who have given him advice and support over the years.  He then added, “If it weren’t for the encouragement and opportunity of Wayne Lucas, the world class horse trainer, I may have never raced again.  For sure, not be in the winner’s circle of The Preakness, one of horseracing Triple Crown.”

The odds of achieving lifelong dreams are a long shot in most of our lives.  Think about who has helped you get into your “winner’s circle” and let them know what they mean to you on this Father’s Day.

With gratitude,

Walter Green

The Perfect Gift for Father’s Day

Tuesday, June 14th, 2011

In anticipation of Father’s Day it is my sincere hope to help you enhance your relationships with your father, grandfather, mentor or any father figure in your lives. This act will also eliminate any regrets for things left unsaid and give you a great gift idea for Father’s Day—the gift of a sincere “thank you” and the knowledge of how these men helped change the course of your life.

When I took my yearlong journey to thank the people who made a significant impact on me it enriched my life! Specifically, it made me much more conscious of my good fortune in having each person in my life—and, moreover, thankful for what they did for me.

That’s why on Father’s Day, explicitly expressing gratitude will enhance your relationship with the person you are thanking. It not only increases their awareness of your gratitude, but it makes you think and express the ways in which the person affected your life. Everyone loves to know that they have made a real difference in someone’s life, especially on Father’s Day!

There is nothing more special than a personal gift and nothing more personal than an expression of gratitude for the many acts of love and support that one has received from one’s Father. It’s also an easy gift—you don’t have to concern yourself with what they need or want, or if it fits or runs on batteries.

How to give this gift of gratitude on Father’s Day

The easiest and most genuine thing sons or daughters can do is to set aside time during the day to express gratitude to their Father—and schedule it so that neither of you will be interrupted. The location should be quiet and devoid of distractions. It is important to take some time beforehand to jot down notes on specific instances where your father made a difference in your life: times when he served as an example, taught you a lesson, and when he gave you love, inspiration or support. It is also important to take notes about how these moments changed you, your outlook on the world, or simply made you feel loved. I brought notes with me to all my visits and found it very helpful in setting the pace for the meeting.

If you cannot be with your father in person, a letter, perhaps accompanied by a photograph of a shared time together (stating much the same things described above), would work just fine.

For those who are not the best at expressing themselves in letters, I’ve heard testimonies from people who have inscribed the title page of This Is the Moment with a short note of gratitude within it. By reading the book, along with the note, a father will understand the significance without needing to have it expressed literally.

The gift you give to yourself

It is my hope to inspire you to not miss this opportunity to express explicit gratitude to your Father, or father figures on this day. It will enrich your life and theirs, enhance the relationships, and give you peace of mind knowing nothing is left unsaid.

Everyone wants validation, needs it, and it’s always a good fit. It is especially helpful in these tough economic times that it is not only a wonderful gift, but it is one that everyone can afford! The last third of my book, This Is the Moment is all about making it easy. You can also get a free guide to help you with your expression of gratitude by accessing the Ignite Your Spark downloadable pdf at the bottom of the pages of this website.

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