As we are full-swing into the holiday season it is a natural time to think of the people who have made a difference in our lives. Often times we assume they know how we feel or we tell them we appreciate them, respect them or are inspired by them but we don’t elaborate.
For example, it is one thing to tell your significant other they mean a great deal to you. You can even go one step further and say something like: “you provide stability and comfort in my life.” Now imagine if you gave a specific example such as, “No matter how stressful things get at work, I always know that I’m going to come home to a serene environment and your unfailing support.”
Wouldn’t this feel wonderful to say to someone? Imagine the gift you are giving!
Now here’s how you can craft an extraordinary expressing of gratitude…
How do you think your spouse would feel if you followed up that previous expression with, “This makes me want to do the same for you, and I think I’m a better person for it.”
Not only will you have expressed your gratitude on a much deeper level, but the other person has a more profound understanding of what he/she means to you, how he/she has specifically impacted your life and how he/she can continue to do the same for others.
This is the perfect way to ignite sparks in your relationship as well as other people in both of your lives.
What about your parents, your children or your best friend? What impact would these conversations have on those relationships?
Here are a few more examples of how you can go deeper with your expressions.
Example: “Your character and solid values have been great role models for me.”
Specifically: “I was impressed seeing you cope so gracefully with the disappointment of losing your job and making lifestyle changes.”
Digging Deeper: “This brought home what’s important in my life and I made some important adjustments.”
Example: “You’re a rock.”
Specifically: “It’s a relief for me to know that there’s someone I can trust with the most confidential aspects of my life.”
Digging Deeper: “You epitomize loyalty, and that gives me tremendous peace of mind. It makes me want to be there for the people who rely on me.”
This is easier than you might have first thought. It only takes a few minutes to think about the specifically how their actions have changed your life and who you have become as a result of having them in your life.
Start today. If you haven’t already done so, download the FREE guide Creating Your Own Gratitude Conversations offered at the bottom of this page under Ignite Your Spark.
Once you begin to with your extraordinary expressions of gratitude, I would love for you to share them with our gratitude community on the Share Your Story page of this site.