Right about now, many of you may be thinking about this upcoming Father’s Day and what you might do to make it extra special. If you are blessed and your father is still alive, consider the expression of appreciation for all that he has done for you over your lifetime.
I am reminded of the story of what one graduate student did after hearing me speak on the subject of my book, This is the Moment…How One Man’s Yearlong Journey Captured the Power of Extraordinary Gratitude. She was a night student and still living at home. When she returned home the night of the lecture she made a list of all the contributions her father made to her life. When her father arrived home later than evening, she asked him to join her in the living room indicating she had things that she would like to share with him. He inquired, “About what?” She responded, “About what you have meant to me.” The father responded, “I know you love me.” The daughter added “Dad, it is more than that. I would love you to just sit with me for a few minutes so I can share my feelings with you.” The father acquiesced and the daughter proceeded to express the specific contributions he had made to her life and what it has meant to her. They both were in tears before the conversation was finished. The father said at the end that it was one of the most heartwarming moments of his life.
It is not important whether you communicate these expressions of gratitude in person. If you will not be with your father on Father’s Day, a letter would do just fine. The important issue is that you do not miss the opportunity.
Whether your father is or is not alive, I would reflect on one additional question. Who else is alive that has given you very helpful fatherly advice over the years?
We all know we are not self -made. Was there a mentor, a teacher, someone in the older generation that made a difference in your life?
If you watched the recent running of the Preakness, the winning jockey was a Hall of Fame rider by the name of Gary Stevens. What makes this story even more remarkable is that Gary is 50 years old and has not raced in the last seven years and his horse, Oxbow was a 15 to 1 shot. When the commentator asked how he was able to do it, Gary responded that his father has been very important to him but he is also so indebted to others who have given him advice and support over the years. He then added, “If it weren’t for the encouragement and opportunity of Wayne Lucas, the world class horse trainer, I may have never raced again. For sure, not be in the winner’s circle of The Preakness, one of horseracing Triple Crown.”
The odds of achieving lifelong dreams are a long shot in most of our lives. Think about who has helped you get into your “winner’s circle” and let them know what they mean to you on this Father’s Day.