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Is Normal and Customary Always Good?

Monday, September 27th, 2010

In many cases, normal and customary is good.  For example, when your temperature is 98.6 that is a good sign.  To want to make the most of your life is also normal and admirable.

There are other times when normal and customary is not good.  For example, it is normal and customary for Americans to consume more calories and exercise less than is ideal.  Years ago a 300 cholesterol level was normal until the medical profession concluded it was unhealthy and adjusted the guidelines to be under 200.

It is also normal and customary to reach out to significant relationships and connect in important ways when death is imminent.  This was beautifully written about in books like Tuesdays with Morrie, The Last Lecture and Chasing Daylight It is customary and normal to feel that when one delivers a eulogy that the thoughtful words of gratitude, respect and acknowledgment will be heard by the deceased.

What I discovered on my year long journey of gratitude as I have written about in This Is the Moment is that it is far more rewarding to you and the important people in your life to express deep and explicit gratitude while everyone is alive and well.  It was my hope that my book will contribute to this practice as the new norm.

I will build on this principle in later blogs but for the moment I would like you to close your eyes and ask answer these two questions,

“Is there anyone who has made an important difference in my life who is no longer here?”

“Was there something that I would have wished I would have said to that person?”

From my experience, almost without exception, everyone answers “yes” to both of these questions.  That is normal and customary.  The pain of regret is the usual emotion and it is far from ideal.

It would be enlightening to members of our community to hear your stories of regret.  It would be a real gift if it awakens others to not let this happen to them and to help them realize that This Is the Moment.

By expressing extraordinary gratitude to the significant people in your life you will find it not only eliminates the pain of regret but it also enhances your relationships and gives you peace of mind.

In future blogs, I will give you more examples of how the process of expressing deep gratitude can enrich your life and those that are important to you.

I know you are probably thinking, “I know this makes sense but …” Don’t worry I will slay those dragons that create this hesitancy in future blogs.

Beyond an Attitude of Gratitude.

Thursday, September 23rd, 2010

We are all guilty of taking things for granted.  Lots of things.  We even resort to excusing the behavior as human nature even though we know it does not serve us well.  We know the value of raising our level of consciousness and being mindful of all that we have.

Let me share a couple ways I try to make it a part of my life.  When I open my eyes upon awakening in the morning, I say to myself “Thank you, God, for another day to do good things”.   Having lost my father when I was 17 years of age, I know all too well that life is short, precious and unpredictable.  I am also aware of how much the body has to do to “wake up and move.”   It is something that I love to acknowledge and celebrate and it is a great way for me to begin my day.

As the day progresses, I think about all the other blessings in my life…food on the table, fresh air, modern conveniences, and people in my life.   Like many of you, I have developed an attitude of gratitude or at least I try to.

These are what I refer to as internal expressions of gratitude.  They are usually expressed to ourselves.  Many of you may even use journals to capture these emotions.

Growing up we are taught to say “thank you” when someone does something for us.  Although our gratefulness is expressed to others in these cases, it is usually for an individual act.  I refer to this as an episodic thank you.

I wanted to share the “pure gold” of gratitude that I discovered when I recently took a year of my life to connect and communicate with those who have had an important influence in my life.  This process was externally expressed gratitude and it affected me in a profound way.   I told each of these life influencers how my life had been enhanced because of them and how grateful I am was.  I refer to this as systemic gratitude since it usually relates to a series of impacts over many years.

The insights from this experience were profound.  When Hay House Publishers asked that I write I book about this year long journey, I could not miss the opportunity to share this experience.  It is my hope that This Is the Moment will both raise the level of consciousness of the value and importance of expressing deep gratitude as well as give the reader all the tools needed to capture this opportunity.

Can you think of someone you want to acknowledge for his/her important influence in your life?  Just one person.  How did they influence you?  I invite you to share your thoughts in the Comments section below or on the Share Your Story page here on the website. By sharing your thoughts, others in our community will be able to better reflect on their own lives and identify those who they may want to acknowledge in the future.

In future blogs, I will tell you how I selected the people on my journey and what I said to them in the hopes you will be inspired to reach out to those who have made a real difference in your life.

Greetings and a very warm welcome

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

Greetings and a very warm welcome,

I am so pleased that your curiosity has brought us together.

In all my years of working with people, I have always aspired to exceed their expectations and in some way to make a difference in their lives. I make the same promise to you.

I will enrich your life and those people that have been really important to you. Specifically, I will raise your level of consciousness of the power of expressing deep gratitude while you and your life influencers are alive and well. I will show you how to do it in your own way and on your own terms. Promise.

You will find it very rewarding to give this personal gift and in the process enhance your important relationships and achieve peace of mind. Promise.

Can you imagine not having any regrets and pain from what has been left unsaid?

What would I like in return? I would really appreciate it if you would share your stories with me of the joys from giving your gifts of gratitude. I would love to hear about your journey here on the website by clicking on the Share Your Story tab. My hope is that each of you can “ignite sparks” in our community and become part of this transformational movement.

Ignite your spark,

Walter Green

Author, Family Man, Friend, Entrepreneur, Mentor and Philanthropist